Woman is supported for refusing neighbor’s van for road trip – Advice Eating

Members of a popular internet forum were quick to defend a woman who explained why she couldn’t lend her special vehicle to her neighbors for a week-long drive.

In a viral Reddit post published on r/AmITeA**hole, Redditor u/Low_Statistician6031 (aka the original poster) said she frequently lent her wheelchair-accessible van to her neighbors, but detailed her great frustration when when she said they could not use the vehicle for an upcoming trip to Disney World.

Captioned: “[Am I the a**hole] for my neighbors not borrowing my car for a long trip?” The post has received more than 7,000 votes and almost 900 comments in the last eight hours.

Beginning by explaining that she originally bought the van to transport her 80-year-old mother, who lives with her for six to eight months each year, the original poster said she noticed her neighbors were struggling to transport her young, wheelchair bound daughter and offered to help.

“I noticed that the neighbors didn’t have a suitable car to transport their daughter without getting her out of the wheelchair,” she wrote. “So I offered them the use of my minivan when I wasn’t using it to transport my mother.”

Noting that the mutually beneficial arrangement has worked smoothly for the past 18 months, the original poster revealed her relationship with her neighbors had soured after failing to comply with the family’s recent request related to the van.

“They asked if they could take the car on a road trip,” she wrote. “The trip should take a little over 2 weeks [and] The main reason for the trip is to take the kids with us [Disney World] for the first time.”

“My problem is that my mother is supposed to arrive a few days after she left,” she wrote. “I asked if they could delay the trip just a few days so that I could at least get out of the airport with minimal stress.”

“They have a strong belief that they go on the dates that they want to do [but] I said no, I need to be able to conveniently pick my mom up from the airport… and not have to worry about it [her] in and out of the car,” the original poster continued.

“[My neighbors] called me selfish and I was ousted from the community,” she added. “I tried to text [them] but my messages weren’t getting delivered so I think they blocked me.”

For both wheelchair users and their loved ones, wheelchair-equipped vehicles can mean the difference between smooth, safe transportation and painful chair-to-car transfers.

Vantage Mobility, a leading manufacturer of wheelchair transporters, claims that moving from a traditionally equipped vehicle to a wheelchair-accessible transporter can eliminate a lot of aches and pains.

“When a car is the primary vehicle used to transport someone in a wheelchair, pain and fatigue caused by frequent seat changes can be a serious problem,” the Vantage Mobility website states. “What could result is joint and muscle pain and eventually arthritis and tendinitis.”

“Because a wheelchair van uses a ramp for boarding, there are no transfers from outside the disability vehicle and you don’t have to load your wheelchair separately,” the website continues.

Members of Reddit’s r/AmITeA**hole forum supported a woman who explained why she can’t let her neighbors use her van for a two-week trip to Disney World.
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Despite the many advantages of a wheelchair transporter, the heavily modified vehicles often come with significant costs.

While final prices vary based on included amenities and are subject to the current volatile used vehicle market, wheelchair vans can range from $40,000 to $100,000, according to Consumer Affairs.

Many Redditors responding to the viral Reddit post cited both the alleged cost of the wheelchair cart they bought to transport their mother and their willingness to help a family in need quickly.

“[Not the a**hole]” wrote Redditor u/ChapSteve711 in the top comment of the post, which received more than 12,000 votes.

“It looks like your ‘friendly neighborhood’ is actually a group of fake friends,” they added. “You didn’t ask for anything improper, but they didn’t adjust to you, even though you were very generous with them.”

Redditor u/Ok-Succotash7483, whose comment received more than 2,000 votes, echoed this opinion.

“This is a whole other level of ridiculous, picky beggar behavior,” they wrote. “I’m sorry your neighborhood has turned against you. I think you should withdraw all offers to use the van time because their behavior is abominable.”

In a separate comment, which has garnered more than 4,500 votes, Redditor u/Boredpanda31 assured the original poster that she was entitled to deny her neighbor’s request as it would have been in direct contradiction to their original agreement.

“The agreement was that if you don’t need it, you could use it — you need it,” they wrote. “If they really wanted to use it, they should have checked the data with you first.”

“Their agreement was that IF YOU DON’T USE IT FOR YOUR MOTHER, you could use it,” interjected Redditor u/MissAnth. “You need it for your mother. So they can’t use it. Very easily.”

news week asked u/Low_Statistician6031 for a comment.

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